The Calm Amid The Storm: Learning To Not Stress Out When Your Child Is Unwell

The benefit of hindsight is a wonderful thing as a parent. You know that if you should see the doctor or not when you’re unwell, but as a new parent, or someone who is going through sickness with your child for the first time, it can be a very stressful situation. When you have a young baby, it's all brand new, especially as you don’t know what is a mild sickness and what is major, and it's obviously very easy to panic. When your baby is screaming or not sleeping, and you don't know how to get rid of their pain, it's very stressful for you. But when your baby is unwell, learning to keep calm and retain some focus will help you. How can you do this?

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Keep A Logical Head On Your Shoulders

Part of the reason we panic is because we don't know what's going on. It's important when our baby is unwell that we take a second to breathe and look at the problem in the round. When our baby is screaming, we need to make sure that we check their temperature, do all the usual checks, like their diaper or if they’re hungry, and ensure that we are doing what we can to keep them happy in the meantime. It's important that we take a step back just to assess the situation in the round. Because there's a rash or a fever, you may very well panic and call the doctor right away. But remember that when it comes to an unwell child, you know your baby better than anyone else. And with regards to pediatric doctors, they will always be sympathetic even if it's something that's not serious. You can find mobile pediatric clinic information online if you are looking for some advice, but at the same time, it's important not to think the worst when researching symptoms online. It's far better to go to the doctor for some peace of mind, but you also need to remember to remain logical in the circumstances.

Learning Calming Techniques

Yes, while it's easy to say you need to remain logical in the circumstances you may find that this is impossible because you are stressing out so much. What we need to do in this respect is to have some control over our nervous system. When you are are in the eye of the storm, your baby is screaming, and you are struggling to relax, there are little things you can do to calm yourself down. Deep breathing is something you can do even when you are holding your baby or taking their temperature. Breathing slowly is crucial. By taking deep and heavy breaths, you can deprive your body of oxygen, which can increase your anxiety. Learning how to breathe in very slowly, using techniques like box breathing, can help you to calm down. And even if you have problems breathing, you could try other approaches, like visual meditation. Having that opportunity to visualize yourself in a place that relaxes you can help when sat down rocking your baby. It only takes a few seconds.

Positive Self Talk

We have to remember that when we are going through a stressful situation, the power of positivity can help trick our brains into making everything seem positive. It seems very strange on the surface but when you realize the fact that your brain is unable to tell the difference between what is real and what is imaginary, giving yourself a pep talk can help to retrain your brain. This is where approaches like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy work well. When your baby is unwell it's so easy to think the worst, and while you may not want to tell yourself that everything is fine, you can remind yourself that your baby will get better.

Get Some Help

You may have tried your best to remain calm under the circumstances. And even if you've only been at home for a few hours it can be difficult to keep your composure in this sort of situation. There is no harm in asking for some extra help. If you need 15 minutes away just to regain some sense of composure, asking a member of the family or your spouse to keep an eye on the child can help you to get yourself away from the situation, and take a tiny break. The big problem that we all have is that we feel guilty for even having this shred of time to ourselves. And the important thing is that when our children can tell that we are stressed, this is going to affect them. And as long as they are comfortable, by being in the arms of someone that they trust, you will feel better, and this gives you the chance to regain a sense of relaxation. Allow yourself this time, as it makes you the protective parent that you want to be.

Having a relaxed frame of mind when your baby is sick is very difficult to come by. But you need to remember that if you've done everything you can to ensure that your baby is comfortable, you have got adequate medical advice, and you are able to support them, there is nothing else you can do. Part of the reason that we stress is that these things are beyond our control- we’re not doctors after all. Naturally, we have a very protective mindset towards our children, but babies are also very resilient. They won't actually remember the discomfort but they will remember that you were there for them. And even if they cry for hours on end, we have to remember that as a parent, especially when they are so young, providing that blueprint for calm is something that they will take with them throughout their lives. Yes, we can feel terrible when we are unwell, but when our children are sick, and our brains automatically think of the worst, we can still provide a sense of calm amongst the storm.


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